Happy Monday!

Today, I’m going to get pretty serious on the blog. In college, and even beyond, we are so bent on pleasing everyone; our family and friends, that we forget that we are the ones in control of our lives, and that the only person we should be out pleasing, is ourselves. It is important that you are the first person you do anything for. You need to put yourself first and foremost in your mind, here’s why.

Now, it is much easier said than done to put yourself first. It’s also not easy to see that you’re not putting yourself first. That’s right, you can be so focused in your life that you forget to take care of yourself.

I’ve been there. I didn’t believe Matt when he told me he noticed I was putting myself first. I literally asked him “I have been putting myself first?” I hadn’t even noticed, but when he told me I had been, I felt weird. I felt in control of myself, for once.

It is very important to do what is best for you, and I’ve been learning that fact during this semester. It isn’t always going to be easy, there will be some hard choices. You have to make the choice, and make the choice that is best for you. That doesn’t mean you don’t have to take into account other people in your life {you significant other, family, etc}, but you should never make an important decision solely based on someone else’s opinion.

So, why should you put your own happiness and mental health at the top of your list? Well, because that’s {supposed to be} the natural thing to do! No, but seriously, mental health is so, so, so incredibly important. Without realizing it, you not putting yourself first, you will never reach your full potential of happiness, it just won’t happen. You also will start to feel like you’re not in control of your life, because you basically aren’t. If you’re aiming to please everyone else around you, you will spend a lot of your time in worry about decision you have to make. You will be wrought with fear of disappointing everyone around you, but if you let that influence your decisions, you will not make the decisions that are best for you. Everyone who cares about you, just wants you to do what is best for you; they want you to be happy.

I’m going through something similar. I was struggling because I didn’t want to disappoint anyone; I felt everyone was so proud of me and I didn’t want that to go away. I was very down and just was not happy with how everything was going. So, I did what any distraught college student would do, I called my mom. She told me that she was proud of me regardless, and would be proud of me for doing what I wanted to. If something wasn’t working out, then I shouldn’t continue it. {Don’t worry, I’ll actually go through this story sometime soon, once everything is settled} My point is, you are the person who has to live with the choices that you make, and it’s your happiness on the line.

If you haven’t yet, I hope you realize that you, and your mental health, are so important! Reach out to your parents, a friend, even me! {I’m always willing to lend an ear, and maybe some advice, if needed!} Always do what is best for you and your life; follow your heart, and your gut. Take control of your mental health and your happiness. It’s your life, live it the way you want to!

Have you put yourself first recently? What are some of your tips to keep yourself at the top?

-XOXO

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Lauren